• sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz
    156·
    1 day ago

    It comes from watching the most niche of porn categories:

    Consenting adults of no familial relation and no overt power dynamic. Completely depraved shit, you can’t find it anywhere anymore

        • sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz
          11·
          1 day ago

          I used to get decent results in the “amateur” or “for women” categories but that was before 2019 when most sites purged anything that wasn’t industry-made

          • LostCarcosan@lemmy.today
            11·
            23 hours ago

            I’m so sick of industry content. It all feels somehow sterile while also being gross and abusive? I don’t understand the obsession with the fake blonde, 90 pound woman with running mascara.

            • sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz
              6·
              22 hours ago

              Dude it’s so bad. This is going to sound weird but it’s almost like a subculture or genre can become inbred when the only people creating anything are the same people whose lives are shaped by the thing they’re creating. Like porn would be better if it was just made by people who have other lives outside of it.

              I can’t help but feel at one time most people didn’t seek out that but over time it’s slowly become all that there is. And you’re right, this is all putting aside just how exploitative and abusive the producers and film makers are

  • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
    27·
    1 day ago
    CW for mention of rape

    I actually knew a guy in an anime fangroup, who had a rape fetish so bad, that he couldn’t stop complaining about NSFW artwork that depicted consensual sex in any form. Allegedly he got banned from that group after one of the mods found out he was a rapist, who raped his girlfriend multiple times, and even got the police involved.

    • village604@adultswim.fanEnglish
      21·
      1 day ago

      My ex left me because I wouldn’t rape her, so she found someone who would.

      And she wasn’t doing the whole, “revisit your trauma in a situation where you have control,” thing. She was never abused, and didn’t even want there to be a safe word.

      • Joelk111@lemmy.world
        181·
        1 day ago

        Not having a safe word is maybe over the line but I feel like in general that’s just a case of indulging in a partner’s fetishes/fantasies. It isn’t really rape if both of you consented before hand, it’s just role play. That said, I’d probably also want to meet somewhere in the middle, I’d have a hard time continuing if I was being asked to stop, even if consent had previously been given.

      • Gaja0@lemmy.zip
        11·
        1 day ago

        Pretty sure somewhere on the internet I read that this was a super common fantasy, but I don’t want to do the research to confirm. There’s probably nuance to it, but it’s definitely uncomfortable to consider.

    • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
      12·
      1 day ago

      In Hungary, Fidesz tried to smear Péter Magyar with sex controversies, all they could dig up is a sextape of him having consensual sex with the girlfriend who was with him at the time. It drew a lot of criticism even from Fidesz supporters, even helped to make some disillusioned with the party.

      • LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works
        3·
        13 hours ago

        How dare he! Consensual hetero sex in a committed relationship, in a conservative society?! Pervert!

        Wasn’t there a story about a president somewhere that the CIA tried to blackmail with a sex tape, and the guy basically said that he’s flattered and he doesn’t if mind his people see if he sleeps around?

  • FishFace@piefed.socialEnglish
    12·
    1 day ago

    Revolting. Next you’re going to try get me with consensual sex in the missionary position for the sole purpose of procreation. Let me tell you, I ain’t getting fooled again!