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  • That was me two years ago (and some change) when I was still married. My ex wife was the one to pull the trigger, and it was the best thing she could have done for the both of us (and our kids).

    I was mad at her for a while. It was also terrifying having to move out and start over by myself, with no friends, and being a single father every other week. But I am sitting here in my house, hanging out after coming home from the gym, and simply enjoying the quiet time I have.

    Yeah, I do miss having a relationship. It would be nice if I had friends too (I lost those in the divorce). But, it’s also nice to not have anybody but myself to answer to sometimes. And if I don’t do the dishes or take out the trash, there’s nobody there to give me attitude about it; it still gets done, but on my schedule and my terms.

    All of that to say that if you’re genuinely not happy, and you feel there is nothing left to fight for, maybe leaving is not the worst thing you can do; it’s scary as fuck, but not that bad in the long run. Save your money, make your plans, and be open and honest with your partner when the time comes.





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    10 days ago

    They may have one or two of the same goals (money, superiority complex, etc), but there is one side that is not actively not trying to bring about the fourth reich.

    ~Hint: The “lesser of two evils” are the dems, and not voting for them because they’re not perfect is (and I don’t usually go to this extreme) the most stupid and asinine argument any idiot could come up with.~

    ^In fact, dare I say, that the whole “both sides” argument is an argument created and propagated by the alt-right simply to sow discord among everyone else. The proverbial straw man fallacy, if you will.^





  • I wanted to take a moment to offer a different perspective. It sounds like your friend is disassociating. That doesn’t make him a bad dad. It just means he might be dealing with things that he is trying to protect himself from on an emotional level. I won’t try to conjecture what they are, because I don’t know him nor do I know his situation. And if you’re willing to take my advice, I’d suggest giving him the benefit of the doubt and just being there for him; whatever that may look like. You might even try to ask him about it (but be willing to accept that if there is something going on, he may not be ready or willing to talk about it).

    Good luck to your friend.