• ameancow@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    I used to find these kinds of comics funny until they started getting leveraged by our dumbest segment of the population to continually rage-bait the very worst conversations from both sides, until everyone became so horrified by what they think the opposite sex thinks and feel about each other, that we all just stopped trying to get along and date and make friends.

    This lack of community and dead hope for basic things like family and healthy relationships and love and all the struggle and reward that comes from making families is what’s broadly harming our society across the world.

    • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      17 hours ago

      Completely unrelated to your comment, thanks to the internet I can’t read the words “both sides” without my eye twitching

      • ameancow@lemmy.world
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        15 hours ago

        No you’re right, it’s a horrible term that was spawned by the very people who wanted to sabotage our better world. The people who introduced the idea that there were “sides” in a “gender war” are particularly likely to be written about in our granddroid’s textbooks as the scourge of our world.

        We are wired to be social, to bond with others and mate and raise families and babies and love our little communities. It’s not that hard it’s just that we’ve allowed it to become so toxic and complicated because we also have over-developed internal simulators that constantly run simulations of the worst outcomes, and it makes us nervous about how others view us. Bad people have leveraged this fact to make us all hate each other and ourselves.

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      19 hours ago

      continually rage-bait

      Engagement bait good.

      I used to find these kinds of comics funny until

      worst conversations from both sides

      Butthurt must flow: the funny is recovered when we step back to observe the flame war.

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    When I used to go out and walk home at night and some lady walking the same way, I’d make sure to walk a little louder and just one step slower than her so the distance was slowly increasing. If she looked anxious I’d even whistle a merry tune or something else ridiculous so she could more easily approximate the distance without having to look around.

    My idea was to signal that I am harmless, have no intent of interaction, and finally that there is somebody else around that diminishes the risks of her being jumped by some hidden assailant.

    If there was a dude ahead of me that looked nervous or did the stiff muscle up walking I’d happily do the same.

    I’ve always looked a little burly and rarely felt afraid for myself so I’m glad if I can share my privilege.

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      Now I’m just picturing a big guy stomping towards a girl whistling a creepy nursery rhyme increasingly loud. 🤣

      /s

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        Yeah, my partner said whistling is one of the creepiest things men do when behind women, even if it’s a relatively innocent song rather than the Jaws theme or something.

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          I usually find it best to stop, look at my phone to increase distance, just slow right down in general. In most cases though, the best thing I find is just simply crossing to the other side of the road, especially as jaywalking isn’t illegal where I’m from.

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            One time I crossed the street to make it absolutely clear I wasn’t following this woman. About 10 seconds later she crossed the street, then looked back and saw me, got startled like a cartoon cat, and sprinted off.

            Sometimes things just don’t work out.

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      I also try to avoid staying directly behind them so I’m not in too much of a blind spot, and if there’s the opportunity to purposefully cast a shadow I’ll do that as well.

      I don’t take offense to it. If someone that was built like me was the only other person around, I’d keep an eye on them also. It doesn’t have to be prejudice against them like people always imply in these posts, it’s just common sense.

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    Boy aren’t there a lot of these sexist comics floating about the last few months.

    So, what, is this basically engagement bait?

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      8 hours ago

      Well, it is, once again, a brand new account that just posts comics and barely comments.

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      9 hours ago

      Haven’t seen many sexist comics, have seen a fuckload of sexist comments however.

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      24 hours ago

      Doesn’t really seem sexist to me: the man has misunderstood the situation and thinks the woman is interested in him. The woman has misunderstood the situation and thinks the man is likely to be aggressive. It’s kind of symmetrical in that way.

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        22 hours ago

        Except it’s yet another comic that has been posted here that is about how women fear/must fear men.

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          22 hours ago

          Women do fear men; commenting on that isn’t (automatically) sexist.

          The comic isn’t saying women should fear men because there’s nothing to suggest the man is predatory.

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            Women do fear men

            This is sexism. Try using the arguments that justify this on ethnic groups and you’d be called racist.

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              It’s not sexist to acknowledge or talk about it though. This comic isn’t advocating sexism. The comic itself is not sexist; it features sexism.

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                4 hours ago

                This comic invents a situation that basically doesn’t happen and generalises men. This comic is itself sexist.

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                  The fact that you think that a comic about one man is generalising men is where you need to correct your thinking.

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        As someone who was abused by a woman for 8 years I would say it goes both ways

        Difference is nobody believed me nor cared