Indigenous Canadian from northern Ontario. Believe in equality, Indigenous rights, minority rights, LGBTQ+, women’s rights and do not support war of any kind.

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  • Thanks for the insight … I’ve made a subtle change to my first comment to reflect what you said.

    It was a poor choice of words and phrasing on my part … a lot of time I’m just off handedly commenting on things while doing something else and never think too much or too clearly about what I’m saying or commenting.

    As an older man now … I do take time to gauge who I am talking to, especially young people, because I know social anxiety, being awkward and just being young makes it difficult for young people to do any kind of small talk. But I also do have to do it safely in a public setting where I can feel safe and the person I talk to can feel safe.

    As you can see … small talk even in a public forum like this is a skill we have to learn.

    If anything small talk is necessary because it teaches all how to live with one another.



  • Small talk is even harder in public if you are a big tall brown long haired Native Canadian man like me. I’m older now and I’m fully aware that I intimidate people at first glance. I’m not violent, or do or want to do aggressive things but if you saw me, chances are those are the first impressions that you would see.

    In northern Ontario, Caucasian people are familiar with people like me and I can easily talk to most people, especially in rural areas. But if I talk to some young woman, I’m often treated like some kind of monster.

    I’ve also been to Europe in Germany, France, Italy and Spain and over there it is even harder for me to conduct small talk … there’s a language barrier and on top of that I look like I do. No matter how modern people can be, there is always a level of racism when people encounter someone who doesn’t look like everyone else they know.

    So to me … small talk is a public filter.

    If I talk to someone and they don’t want to engage, I move on.

    If I talk to someone and they treat me kindly and openly, I’ve met someone who will help me feel more comfortable in this strange world.


  • IninewCrow@lemmy.catomemes@lemmy.worldSeems a great many of you need this.
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    This also acts as a public filter

    If you small talk with someone and they react positively (or at least don’t treat you weird) … then the person you are small talking to is a decent RECEPTIVE person who is also open to a bit of communication.

    If you small talk with someone and they immediately treat you weird, walk away or just don’t want to deal with you … then chances are, it was a good thing you said something to eliminate any negative interaction.

    EDIT: changed a word in my phrasing





  • I’m as left of center as most socially minded people … I’m making a comment here and I keep messing it up

    Cuba, the country or it’s government did not directly cause the assassination of JFK. You can even see it in the reaction of Castro when he heard the news … he immediately saw it as nothing but bad news for Cuba.

    What I am trying to say is that American intelligence set up a whole system and people to either have paramilitary or assassination groups to be sent and set up in Cuba. But their plans were either shelved, delayed or dismissed leaving all those groups with nothing but a sense of abandonment, disillusionment and anger at being set aside. They were ripe for being redirected to a different operation directed at their own country.

    What I’m saying is that Cuba had a role in that it only needed to exist … to be there … clandestine forces built a system to assassinate a leader in Cuba but when that didn’t happen, they redirected the gun (so to speak) at their own leadership.

    What I’m saying is that the JFK assassination would have been less likely to happen if no one had been going after Cuba in the first place.



  • I guess I wasn’t clear with my statement

    I meant to suggest that Cuba was the cause of the JFK assassination from the point of view that all the clandestine projects they were working on for an assassination for Fidel Castro didn’t work or were being prevented or discouraged by the US government. This set off a chain of events where they turned the projects they were directing to Cuba instead towards the US president. Basically the same operations and operators that were meant to be directed to Cuba were instead brought to the US and the president.

    In a round about way … Cuba was the cause or catalyst (or one of many causes or catalysts) for the JFK assassination.