• jcs@lemmy.world
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    I’ve tasted friendship (Ha-ha)
    I’ve tasted you (Oh no)
    I’ve tasted dying and it tasted good
    I’ve tasted heartbreak (Wah)
    I’ve tasted food (Uh oh)
    I’ve tasted dying and it tasted good

    But that’s dessert
    You can have it when the dinner is gone
    But that’s dessert (Uh-hoo-ah-oh-ah-oh)
    But that’s dessert
    You can have it when the dinner is gone
    So put it down

    Jack Stauber

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    I’m very worried about everyone here. Really, I know that there is a way out that isn’t suicide–it’s revolution–but it seems like you’ve all submitted to Capitalist Realism. I’ve thought about risking my life in an attempt to overthrow the state, but unlike you all, I am legitimately afraid of losing my life. It’d be such a sad note to end my life on. I wouldn’t be there to see any surprising good things happen. I wouldn’t get to see a socialist system established before me, and I wouldn’t be able to do anything to help anyone. How come you all feel fine about death? There’s nothing afterwards. There were the Viet Cong who couldn’t live to see their country establish socialism, there were the Leninists who died fighting the Tsar who couldn’t see the Soviet Union come to be, there were the slaves who died in Southern plantations who couldn’t see Juneteenth. If you were really willing to die, you’d die in battle.

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          That we failed people? I just did.

          To accept people want to cease to exist? No. Understand it, respect it, tolerate it if to mitigate unreasonable suffering, yes.

          Accept it just because, no. Life is not cheap, discardable or disposeable. So, no.

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    Then, after you get “saved” from suicide, they strip you of your rights and shove you in a cell for up to five days.

    And that attitude is what the staff will have towards you. You are there to be punished for daring to be suicidal and trying to reject the gift of life. You’ll probably lose your job after the hospital stay, and then get stuck with thousands in bills for the “treatment” (sitting in a room watching day time tv while you listen to people in psychosis or dementia getting the shit beaten out of them by the staff.)

    But this is a good thing! It’s so much better to be alive then not dead, that’s why we need to abuse suicidal people!

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      Yepo. I was on a 72hr hold after a manic episode caused by a med interaction (Wellbutrin, took away the mild depression but let the massive anxiety run wild) and it was the worst fucking experience of my life. Literally just stick you in a program that doesn’t give a fuck about why your there, just headcount they can bill for. I was perfectly fine like 2hrs after I got locked in and spent the remaining 70hrs climbing the walls.

      0/10 Do not recommend. And this was in Massachusetts, a place wildly known for good healthcare.

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        I’m in Oklahoma. I went in voluntary a few months ago for suicidal ideation (which I think is a rational reaction to the events of November…)

        They upgraded me to involuntary illegally (like, a single therapist accused me of lying when I said I was no longer suicidal, and made the call to hold me.) I had vape smoke blown in my face, was misgendered and assaulted by staff.

        I won’t call 988 or any service like that ever. There is no accountability or safety here

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          Never call 988. Choose life or choose death, do not choose the additional 25 thousand dollar bill, degradation, trauma, and suffering that comes from 988. It’s a trap and the only people who win are big pharma, psychiatric inpatient facility investors or owners, and rich psychiatrists who sling drugs (that barely do more than a placebo), sling false hope, and sling financial exploitation.

          Just say no to 988!

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            Just for context, 988 is a Canadian suicide crisis helpline.

            That’s so disappointing that one of the first resources that comes up when searching for help would be, essentially, a trap.

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      We should make dying in battle a good thing again. The wrong kind of peace is a blight upon society.

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      i always thought (and pretty sure this is the case in most places) that suicide was technically a crime to give police an excuse to bust in to stop an attempt if needed. not to put people in fucking jail for failing to go through with it.

      but then again the us would like any excuse to incarcerate people so who knows.

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        They don’t put you in jail - they put you in a “hospital” you can’t leave, which is basically a jail that pretends it helps you. Instead, you get maybe 15 minutes with a psychiatrist (I don’t understand how the one from my suicide attempt passed his TOEFL), who will prescribe you anti depressants. Leaving is contingent on agreeing to take these anti depressants. All of the other staff are random, uncertified people who have the legal right to physically assault you. These are the same people that decide whether to give you a grievance form after beating you up (which gets tossed in the trash anyway.)

        Research suggests that suicide rates go up after inpatient hospitalization. A substantial aspect of my PTSD is related to abuse as a child in inpatient facilities. I’m an adult that still has nightmares over this shit.

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          Because there is no way to prove involuntary care makes suicide more likely (since those with a financial interest will always say the post-release suicides were hospitalized due to having worse mental health), the grifting of the downtrodden will continue.

          I long for the day a genius statisitcian finds a way to prove what all involuntarily treated people already know.

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          At least in the uk they let us keep our phones and provide free wifi/Internet access.

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            Trust me, you DO NOT want to use the NHS for mental health stuff.

            Too much of my c/ptsd is from nhsmh services now. The sheer amount of blatantly ignored abuse on those wards has left me terrified of hospitals, healthcare workers and doctors. They can do anything to you in there and you have no voice or rights. They decide what gets written down about you. They decide what happens to you and you belongings.

            I’ve been told by several people who’ve been in/worked in prisons, that you have more rights and safety oversights in prisons that on mh wards here.

            Out patient care is not much better either. 5+ year waiting lists for 30 minutes of cbt ever 6 weeks to treat your suicidal depression brought on by chronically shit living conditions, isn’t going to be at all helpful. Nor is 7+ years on a waiting list to see a burnt out healthcare worker for ten minutes, who immediatly decides you’re malingering without listening to you or reading your supporting paper work, so you are now deemed unworthy of progressing up the ladder to join a waiting list to see a specialist for your condition.

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              Wow so your healthcare is chronically underfunded too. Do you also have the privatization ghouls constantly scratching at the edges as well? I hate those guys. Don’t know how to get rid of them, because the well-off folks want to let them in (to the henhouse).

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      This is why I never told anyone when I held a gun to my head. I was afraid it would ruin my life after I didn’t do it.

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      No no, you don’t get it. You have to suicide the slow American way with cancer and heart disease. Pick your favorite form of socially acceptable self mutilation today!

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    And then the people all clapped and patted themselves on the back for saving the guy and went about their day. But the guy went back to the same life full of problems that led him to despair. Crippling debt or depression. Estrangement from loved ones that are no longer willing to reconnect. Loneliness or defamation or disease. It’s easy to save someone from jumping, but this is not help. That is not the help they need. They need constant and long term help, assistance, and support.

    Saving a stranger from a suicide attempt has a vibe to it like preventing an abortion from happening without providing any further support for the mother or the child. Congrats, you saved a life, technically. But you did nothing to save the life.

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      No you dumbass they are going to be sent to get help.

      Nearly everyone that attempts suicide and survives regrets trying and are glad they’ve failed.

      Sorry for my strong language, but I’ve had friends and loved ones struggle with mental illness. A few have attempted suicide and either failed or have been stopped. I once took a friend’s gun the day before he tried to commit suicide. If I had not done that he would be dead today, but today he is happy. He has a life worth living and is doing infinitely better.

      Suicide attempts are a mental health crisis. In that moment that person is not of a sound mind and incapable of making that decision.

      This is nothing like going to a doctor and seeking a medical procedure like an abortion. If anything this is like a woman throwing herself down the stairs in an attempt to end a pregnancy. They don’t need to be allowed to throw themselves down the stairs. They need to be stopped and given access to proper medical care.

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        Suicide attempts are a mental health crisis. In that moment that person is not of a sound mind and incapable of making that decision.

        I disagree. Life can be awful and people can make rational decisions to die.

        “Mental health crisis” and “incapable of making that decision” just are ways of saying “this person must be forced to give money to the mental health system through compliance with druggings and forced in-patient care that they will be billed for.”

        You’re likely part of the mental health industry. Only one of “them” would think 30K in additional debt (paid to mental health workers/doctors) is always better than death.

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          I respect the right to die on your own terms, but when someone attempts suicide in such a public manner, and during the daytime with lots of bystanders around, I feel there’s a chance they might want to be “saved.”

          Obviously following up and holistic support would be ideal. But even just putting myself in the shoes of someone walking by, I don’t think I’d be able to just keep walking if I saw someone climbing over the ledge. Just in case.

          I had a close older family member attempt when they were in their twenties. They’re in their fifties and a ray of sunshine at family gatherings now. So you never know.

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            Because religious people have criminalized dying by choice, especially with assistance, it is impossible to parse out impulsive attempts from those who have highly rational reasons for wanting to die.

            The solution to this, and many other problems, is simple: ban all religions.

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              I feel like the religion is more a mirror on society. See how more educated populations skew secular. The mainstream just does what it wants, sometimes gesturing to religion as an excuse. IMHO, anyway. I’m no anthropologist.

              I’m definitely in favour of assisted dying. I know if I was planning my death I’d rather have some help. Shame we can’t get the churches involved — culturally, they’re well situated to provide a lot of comfort to certain people.

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      There’s a chance someone else in that crowd understood and began taking daily time to interact with the man. It’s not impossible.

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      This is why I dislike people who stop suicides. It’s their choice and their right. Mind your business, asshole

      Ironically though, the ones who are driven to suicide are often the ones you want to keep around. The ones who cause the pain should be removed from our world

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        As a person who has been suicidal, I respect this opinion, but as a person who lost multiple family members to suicide, I wish someone had stopped them. The fact that nobody did is what keeps me around though, resentfully, because I don’t think my mom could handle it again. It’s a complicated feeling.

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          Same. My child texted “goodbye” to his friends and they saved him. OC, maybe you’d feel different if the suicide was a loved one, who didn’t tell you how they felt? Fuck any other outcome in my case.

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            Adolescence and young adulthood are such flashpoints for self harm, and it’s true that some people just grow out of it.

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        What I think would be most ethical if I saw someone about to commit suicide by jumping (or other means) would just be to use my words to talk with them but not physically stop them.

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    The Hippocratic oath is far too frequently interpreted as a mandate to unilaterally inflict life as broadly and indiscriminately as possible.

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      Well yeah you finally have the knowledge that this earth isn’t worth living in and finally overcame your body’s built in instinct to not die, and some assholes literally force you to stay alive by grabbing onto you like nearly every depiction of hell or hades that has ever existed including tying you to the bridge with ropes.

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        Or maybe it’s the most cared for he’s felt in a long time. There’s something powerful about having that many people care and dedicate time to saving you.

        The reasons for “why” he was trying to commit suicide definently would effect how he feels about this

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        From a suicidal persons pov that’s exactly what I imagine that would feel like. Also the insane amount of embarrassment from a huge crowd of people that are all there because of you. Some of whom are probably “it’s all in your head” kind of people. It is hard enough to open up and show your feelings to one trusted person, let alone an effin crowd.

        That said, the guy that they saved can now say “F you and see you tomorrow” so that’s something.

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          Oh man I’ve got a couple words for ya.

          let alone an effin crowd.

          A person can be smart, but people are fucking stupid.

          Please don’t you ever equate yourself to what more than one person thinks.

          You’ve thought about you more and your opinion is the most valuable when it comes to you. Be yourself at all times. Maybe you’ll do it enough and people will admire it. Maybe you have, just always forget about what others think, it has so much to do with you and so little to do with them.

          You can’t share yourself if you’ve already molded it to be everyone else.

          Edit: I really hope you don’t read this as malicious or corrective, more of just a please don’t forget about you. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others or where you think others should place you, but they can never ever have your perspective. Just be your best you, and at least one person will love that and feel proud of it. That person will be you.

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        You don’t know if the man was willing to be saved at this point, he may have been in a situation where he wasn’t able to hold himself up. Also this appears to not be the US, I assume they have their own cultural views on suicide and often cultures do have longer term solutions for people who are suicidal, Some cultures in Africa will take a normal workday off as a group and have a public celebration of sorts they will stay in the sun most of the day and community members will all individually take time to talk to the community member in need and show effort to spend time with them about anything at all, they rarely talk about their troubles is what I understand. There are approaches that differ from the west and there’s places with less stigma.

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        i get that these people need more help than just being convinced not to do it, but in that moment isn’t talking them out of it the right thing to do?

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            This hits way too close to home. In my time I have known many friends and loved ones that have dealt with suicidal ideation and a few attempts.

            Every single one of them is doing better now. They’ve all built lives and are happy. They are all so grateful they failed or were prevented from killing themselves.

            You don’t turn a blind eye when someone is having a mental health crisis. You help them.

            To your point in that moment they are not of a sound mind to be making that decision.

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    Ohh, my turn to post this classic:

    The view from halfway down - Alison Tafel

    The weak breeze whispers nothing
    the water screams sublime.
    His feet shift, teeter-totter
    deep breaths, stand back, it’s time.

    Toes untouch the overpass
    soon he’s water-bound.
    Eyes locked shut but peek to see
    the view from halfway down.

    A little wind, a summer sun
    a river rich and regal.
    A flood of fond endorphins
    brings a calm that knows no equal.

    You’re flying now, you see things
    much more clear than from the ground.
    It’s all okay, or it would be
    were you not now halfway down.

    Thrash to break from gravity
    what now could slow the drop?
    All I’d give for toes to touch
    the safety back at top.

    But this is it, the deed is done
    silence drowns the sound.
    Before I leaped I should’ve seen
    the view from halfway down.

    I really should’ve thought about
    the view from halfway down.
    I wish I could’ve known about
    the view from halfway down—