• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    I would literally kill someone if they tried to force me to wear that, or die trying.

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    Alternatively: destroy it.

    I usually have a pocket knife and zippo within 50 feet of me.

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    You can find all sorts of gore on the Interwebs. This one… This one terrifies me.

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    I think the little dangling threads really put this over the top for me.

    I feel delightfully squirmy, but not in the fun way.

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      I feel delightfully squirmy, but not in the fun way.

      I think “delightfully” is a direct opposite to “not in the fun way”

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    There’s no way this is an autistic only trait right? You’re telling me people just go around dealing with those things?

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      Its annoying to normies.

      It causes more or less significant to extreme mental and physical anguish to many autists.

      Many autists have basically heightened levels of awareness with one or many of their physical senses, as compared to non autists.

      Like, I frequently notice minor visual details in the world around me, that most other people completely miss, tell me I’m lying when I say I saw them, then they go check and are angry that I was right.

      Same thing with heightened sensitivity to bright light, as well as extreme repulsion from certain color palettes.

      Or, same kind of thing with sounds. Myself, a lot of other autistic people get extremely irritated by low intensity, but perisistent sounds that are either very high or very low frequency … that most people don’t notice untill you tell them to stop and focus, then, they can hear them.

      But for autists it is… sometimes literally so annoying it will drive you mad. It causes actual pain from how stressed it makes you.

      Its why autists and noise canceling headphones are a thing.

      Most ‘ASMR’ videos?

      I’d rather run into brick wall at 20 mph.

      ASMR is a thing, but, as a genre of content, its largely a bunch of idiots making the most annoying and aggravating sounds possible, and acting like its soothing.

      tl:dr; yeah, its not an autistic only thing, but something like this is fucking kryptonite to autists.

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        I have sound sensitivity as well, but actually love asmr when it’s done correctly. But you’re right, the majority of it is garbage.

        Thanks! I was curious because I have other traits that have been labelled as neurodivergent by my therapists but I’m not diagnosed or anything so I never know if something is “normal” or not.

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          Yeah!

          Real, actual ASMR is very neat, when done properly…

          … but, these days, its mostly idiots that have warped it from an actual, specific, biophysical effect, into a massively bastardized basicslly just flavor of slop content.

          And also… yeah, at least in the US, its very difficult to find a therapist that knows much about autism, its even more difficult to get a diagnosis if you sre an adult.

          https://raads-rtest.org/

          Take that, take the results of it to your therapist.

          Chances are, that’ll be the first time they’ve even heard of this, despite it being pretty well established in the field… because most US therapists don’t know that much about autism. You have to find, and be able to afford, someone with specific training.

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      There’s a difference between “that’s a bit annoying” and “I literally can’t think of anything else and I must tear off the tag even if I destroy the shirt and I mean RIGHT now or I’m getting naked”

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      It’s kinda concerning how people often are taking normal reactions/behaviors and labeling them as autistic or ADHD.

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        I’m not sure if it applies to autism to the same degree, but that’s actually one of the main problems with ADHD:

        Most of our symptoms are things that neurotypicals struggle with too, but taken to 11 because of congenital differences in neurochemistry including but in no way limited to chronic dopamine deficiency.

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        There is an issue in autistic individuals with textures. And it’s an issue you can’t really understand if you don’t suffer it. Yeah, I dress by texture rather than fashion. And those tags are hellish to me and many other autistic people in ways that only them understand.

        It’s kinda concerning and pretty annoying when some people start with the “this is a normal reaction, not an autistic thing”.

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          Infuriating since annoyances are equated with real suffering. I always try to explain that yes, there are things which NT can experience but they have a scale from 0 to 100 and ND scale can be wildly off like > 4000% which can cause a whole range of psychological as well as physical issues.

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            Yep.

            And while > 4000% is hyperbolic, a whole lot of normies just refuse to entertain the notion that you’re being serious, not hysterical, that this kind of thing is actually fairly well studied.

            Its like guys just telling gals ‘its just a period, how bad can it be?’ or gals telling guys ‘its just a flu, how bad can it be?’

            Yeah, hard to quantify precisely, along some universal scale… but that is because there is no universal scale; different kinds of people experience different levels of measurable agony from different things.

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              I disagree (it necessarily being hyperbolic), by now it’s been proven we can have “real” physical pain (and thereby also damage). Maybe the number sounds exaggerated but we don’t know.

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                By hyperbolic I mean that 4000% is likely not the actually correct specific number, but that it is a much higher number, just maybe not 4000%.

                Maybe its more like 12 or 13 or 18, compared to 10.

                Basically I am trying to agree with you and say that yes, it is substantially worse, but maybe not literally 4000% worse.

                If 100 is 100%, 4000% would be 4000.

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        You try having ADHD and going 24 hours without food. All you can think about is eating. It’s very distracting. It’s an ADHD thing 🤷‍♀️

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      If you take a single trait, it’s almost never autistic or whatever only. But it can be a common one among autistic people.

      But there are people who don’t care about tags and let them in their clothes.

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      I read your comment, thought “Am I dealing with one?” and had to reach into my shirt to check if it had one or not. It turns out it does! So… I guess so. I’m irregular in other ways, though, so I might not be a good point of comparison.

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        Autist here:

        I either buy shirts that don’t have them, or use a seam ripper to take them off, when I get them.

        Yeah, they’re so annoying that I have a whole pre-planned way of handling this, lol.

        Sometimes… somtimes, the tag will be made of a kind of fabric that is actually very soft, not scratchy, not pokey. This is very rare in my experience, but I have had a few bits of clothes like that.

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        I confirm i have one, well two, but i can’t tell exactly. The annoying ones are usually long. Also you better not start thinking about these little things because it’s like virus.

        No really don’t even start to think about it.

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        I leave those on too, isunless they’re the variety that’s more stale than usual. Those bastards itch