• Rivalarrival@lemmy.today
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    She could have gone to her parents, a counselor or a trusted adult to help her manage her emotions over the situation until a better resolution could be reached.

    She did. She fucking did all the things that you say she should have done. She availed herself of all the support structures you say she should have utilized, and they all failed her.

    Those parents, counselors, and trusted adults could have helped her “manage her emotions” by separating her from the harasser. Instead, they put the two of them together on a bus, effectively unsupervised. She did everything right. All of the social structures that should have supported her failed, and now you’re all <pikachu face> that the most reasonable course of action she had was direct violence.

    The school’s actions were foolish, lazy, unhelpful, and unacceptable. In the specific circumstances she faced, her actions were perfectly reasonable.

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      Managing emotions can’t be done through external acts, it is an internal act. Those systems she availed to were still working on the issue, instant gratification is not reasonable. Violence is not a reasonable or effective course of action, it is an impulsive and stupid one and it only made her life worse.

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        She could have gone to her parents, a counselor or a trusted adult to help her manage her emotions

        Managing emotions can’t be done through external acts, it is an internal act

        Pick a lane.

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        They weren’t working the issue, they were ignoring her. The administrators clearly thought she was making shit up.

        Now he’s facing charges because she forced the police to look into it.

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          The situation was not resolved when she attacked him and they were not done with it just because they didn’t immediately do what she wanted, neither were her parents.

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            Giving a bit more context it wasn’t just this one girl. This was a child porn trading ring with multiple victims, and they all had gone to the school administration and some even went to the police.

            The principal, Danielle Coriell, said an investigation came up cold that day as no student took responsibility. The deputy assigned to the school searched social media for the images unsuccessfully, according to a recording of the disciplinary hearing.

            “I was led to believe that this was just hearsay and rumors,” the girl’s father said, recounting a conversation he had that morning with the school counselor.

            But the girl was miserable, and a police incident report showed more girls were reporting that they were victims, too. The 13-year-old returned to the counselor in the afternoon, asking to call her father. She said she was refused.

            Her father says she sent a text message that said, “Dad,” and nothing else. They didn’t talk. With the mocking unrelenting, the girl texted her sister, “It’s not getting handled.”

            And so she handled it herself.

            Every moment she waited she was being further victimized, further harassed, and further threatened. Sexual harassment is considered sufficiently threatening behavior for self-defense to be justified, and that’s how the police are handling it.

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              23 hours ago

              Only if your physical safety is at risk. You can’t roll up to a home and beat someone for sharing a picture on the internet, for example.