Be careful. Life as an auntie/uncle can be a gateway to the kind of love and joy some folks around here consider… unnatural.
Pretty soon you’re buying them presents, taking them to the zoo, and giving up on late night drinking and watching old movies from a tiny TV at a shady bar, because you’re more invested in the kid’s soccer practice the next day. I know, I know, it sounds horrifyingly bleak. But it could happen to you!!!
You will be tired. But you’ll also be fulfilled in a way that nothing else in life can truly approximate.
There will be sleepless nights but your child will also imbue many of your wakeful hours with a joy you’ve never had before.
If you really open your mind and see the world from their perspective, you’ll come to appreciate things you’ve long taken for granted.
The first few months are pretty rote. Feed, diaper, nap every 2-3 hours. There’s not a lot of feedback. There’s still joy in the comfort you bring to them but man is it exhausting.
Eventually… that first time they smile at you or babble at you… it will stay with you. There are many facets to love but the love you’ll feel in that moment will be like nothing else you’ve experienced. Its like seeing the sun rise for the first time.
He could also regret everything. Spiral into depression and find he is not fulfilled at all.
Leading to a total life spiral.
Iv had more then one friend better spouted off the whole. You’ll be fulfilled in ways you don’t know nonsense. Only for them to take their own f****** life because they couldn’t handle it leaving themselves dead their wife alone and their child fatherless.
Really f****** sick and tired of people claiming just absolute b******* with no understanding of the person they’re talking to.
We have no way to know if he actually will be a good parent if they’ll be fulfilled if they’ll hate it if they will hate their child if they’ll hate themselves if they’ll love their child. If they’ll love themselves, we don’t know them and spouting off. B******* does nothing. It’s too complex a topic for anyone myself or yourself to have any real grasp on for someone else. We can only speak for ourselves
Well this is a horrifying thread to read 3 months away from our first making an appearance
Its all true. The bags under the eyes. The stress. The moving your life into the closet. The rationing of self-care.
But the important thing is, it’s still the greatest joy. Babies take everything from you, and demand more, but its still a fucking bargain.
Edit - also congratulations and good luck!
I got to experience this with my brother, without the having a wife and child part.
Be careful. Life as an auntie/uncle can be a gateway to the kind of love and joy some folks around here consider… unnatural.
Pretty soon you’re buying them presents, taking them to the zoo, and giving up on late night drinking and watching old movies from a tiny TV at a shady bar, because you’re more invested in the kid’s soccer practice the next day. I know, I know, it sounds horrifyingly bleak. But it could happen to you!!!
It’s all worth it, don’t worry. Congratulations!
You will be tired. But you’ll also be fulfilled in a way that nothing else in life can truly approximate.
There will be sleepless nights but your child will also imbue many of your wakeful hours with a joy you’ve never had before.
If you really open your mind and see the world from their perspective, you’ll come to appreciate things you’ve long taken for granted.
The first few months are pretty rote. Feed, diaper, nap every 2-3 hours. There’s not a lot of feedback. There’s still joy in the comfort you bring to them but man is it exhausting.
Eventually… that first time they smile at you or babble at you… it will stay with you. There are many facets to love but the love you’ll feel in that moment will be like nothing else you’ve experienced. Its like seeing the sun rise for the first time.
Father of 18 months. Wouldn’t change a thing.
He could also regret everything. Spiral into depression and find he is not fulfilled at all.
Leading to a total life spiral.
Iv had more then one friend better spouted off the whole. You’ll be fulfilled in ways you don’t know nonsense. Only for them to take their own f****** life because they couldn’t handle it leaving themselves dead their wife alone and their child fatherless.
Really f****** sick and tired of people claiming just absolute b******* with no understanding of the person they’re talking to.
We have no way to know if he actually will be a good parent if they’ll be fulfilled if they’ll hate it if they will hate their child if they’ll hate themselves if they’ll love their child. If they’ll love themselves, we don’t know them and spouting off. B******* does nothing. It’s too complex a topic for anyone myself or yourself to have any real grasp on for someone else. We can only speak for ourselves
So speak for yourself and not others
Some people are amazing parents, it takes talent and compassion, I think you guys will do great, good luck