• MystikIncarnate@lemmy.ca
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    6 days ago

    29 days “lost” at sea, is therapy for all of the external bullshit we deal with every fucking day.

    By “we” I mean people in society, not just men. Everyone struggles with making their way in “this world” we built for ourselves. We made it to be this horrible.

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      I watch some trash reality TV and always find it kind of funny how contestants spend a long amount of time internalizing the stress of the situation the show they agreed to be on is putting on them.

      Half of Love Island is “Why did you kiss them?” “Why did you go on a date with that person?” “Why did you break up with me?” Guys it’s a SHOW. The SHOW is making you go through these completely unnatural circumstances!

      And then I think about real life and it’s like “why don’t I have energy? why am I so depressed? why can’t I be more productive?” …guys it’s CAPITALISM/SOCIETY. SOCIETY is making you go through these completely unnatural circumstances!

      …except of course I didn’t agree to be on this show.

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        None of us did.

        I didn’t get a say in whether or not to be born. I’m just here now and I have to deal with all of this shit.

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    The environment we created for ourselves takes advantage of our evolution and uses our biology against us.

    Food is drowned in sugar to get us addicted. Social media is designed to keep us angry and upset. Entertainment is a recycled polished turd, designed to take no risks and challenge nothing and leave us only with shallow amusement.

    We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.

    We have made a world of numbing poison for ourselves. A 29 day separation sounds like the most powerful “therapy” we could have tbh.

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      7 days ago

      i was a camp host for a summer and it was possibly the best summer of my life. no power, no water, no internet, minimal contact with people, cleaning toilets, and spending half of my day in a kayak.

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        That sounds like a great way to spend a summer. I wouldn’t mind running water but I’d probably learn to appreciate it after not having it for a few months.

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      Damn, that is well said. This sentence in particular:

      We are losing our respect for the profound, our empathy for the other, and our curiosity for the unknown.

      is the kind of thing that sounds like an empty platitude when your mind/life is in a bad state, but after a few years of progress and healing I read that line and wish I could adequately express the years of reflection and learning that can be distilled down to such a short statement.

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        Thanks stranger.

        I think a lot about daily life and the systems we’ve built and the way people treat each other and think about existence, and how we’ve changed and over time… or haven’t.

        We’re advancing so much faster than we’re evolving.

        I think that’s causing problems :/

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    Theraphy, when it works, only solves internal causes of one’s pain.

    29 days away from present day society, will for a while suspend the external causes of one’s pain.

    (Which is why the former usually doesn’t fully solve everything: the external shit, which often is what indirectly created much of the internal shit via things like trauma and coping mechanisms, is still there and pushing you)

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    7 days ago

    29 days without having to work all day long, deal with chores and family and whatever. And then sleep a couple of hours to do it again. This has nothing to deal with this person going to therapy.

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    7 days ago

    I read this as more “not having to experience the daily news for a month and being horrified”.

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    7 days ago

    therapy might get covered but costs money somewhere along the way. it might also lose you a job for ‘unrelated’ reasons.

    you presumably get paid while lost at sea if you are part of the crew

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    7 days ago

    Weak men can’t admit to their faults nor face their shortcomings, lackings and fears. Entire sections of the internet have been devoted to allowing men to avoid reality and remain immature…

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      I hate this ‘weak men’ bullshit, sure some fit the popular definition, but do you know their pasts? Their trauma? The reason they fit such a description? I’d say it’s pretty damn difficult to know these about anyone you never actually talk to.

      Also, sometimes escapism works in favour of people and gets them to put their lives back together, although it can also cause negative changes as well, although it’s not guaranteed. It’s not a maturity or immaturity thing, it’s just an act.

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        I understand, and I honestly wasn’t trying to hurt anyone nor make light of their trauma. What I said was simply descriptive. And there’s a difference between losing yourself in media sometimes, perhaps to cleanse your head, and the pro MTGOW/incel narratives and communities that pollute online spaces, which is what I was referring to.

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          Yeah that makes more sense now, and I agree that the incel and other types of similar communities are pretty harmful, best to avoid those crowds. Also, I was probably a bit too harsh in my previous comment, it’s mainly the fact the idea that people can be labelled as weak is strange to me, and unless someone has done something truly antisocial, like being a pedo, creep or something else for instance, I don’t think anyone is truly weak, just only deficient in certain areas, although unfortunately some people remain unredeemable.

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    No, we’d rather be lost at sea than have to participate in the broken society that makes people need therapy.

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      I lack the photoshop skills, but uh

      The ‘plap plap GET PREGNANT’ meme, but with a therapist shouting:

      ‘accept what you can’t change’

      ‘don’t blame yourself for things out of your control’

      ‘oh, the copay is $125’

      ‘you missed the last appointment so we charged you for not canceling in advance’

      ‘im worried you’re not taking our sessions seriously’

      sorry psych professionals, there is no ethical therapy under capitalism

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      You can just do that. No one is stopping you from buying a canoe and floating away

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        6 days ago

        A cursory glance implies a decent canoe starts at $2000, so my bank account is stopping me, at bare minimum

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            I think we’re gonna have to call this one a skill issue actually, as I don’t think I can discretely put a canoe into my pocket so I’m not sure how you expect me to actually get from canoe acquisition to open seas without arrest.

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          I don’t know what I’m holding out for. Maybe I should fix my teeth, take the gadgets I already have, and get lost forever.

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        To be fair we were breed to be lost at sea/forest/steppe, not live in a modern society. Like that’s our natural place to live and die, not a city.

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          We’re not homo naledi. We’ve been living in increasingly modern societies forever, and definitely long enough for it to be more natural to us as a species than shitting in bushes and dying of dysentery.