• Lady Butterfly she/her@reddthat.comOP
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    I’m a DA outreach worker i say 100% trust your gut instinct it’s telling you something. DA perps are manipulative and so tend to be well liked IME. Just fyi there’s a list of DA warning signs here. Every tip for narcissism is someone that does more than their fair share of the talking, always brings things back to them.

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      That is a grim list to read. Especially since it describe my late mother exactly (other than the sexual issues I thankfully know little of).

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      Thanks for that, really. I’ll check it out. I’ve had my fair share of experiences so I have learned to trust the red flags. It just sucks when nobody else seems to notice them (though with this guy I am definitely not the only one noticing as I found out recently…)

      • Lady Butterfly she/her@reddthat.comOP
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        Yep! I’ll bet there’s a few. The interesting thing is perps often know that, especially when they’re older… they test people to see if they do realise the perp is abusive.