It doesn’t sound like you really have any understanding of, or concern for, what happened to the other 77 women, nor what happened to the other 79+ men your girlfriend “swiped left” on in your scenario.
And you’re accusing me of using boomer logic? That’s some classic boomer logic if I’ve ever heard it: “I got mine, fuck the rest of you, it’s obvious why you all failed, you just need to work harder or lower your standards, even though I didn’t, because everything just worked out flawlessly for me and I don’t want to be too introspective about why in case I accidentally develop some empathy about it”
Yeah, dating apps are just fine the way they are. Nothing wrong with them at all.
This is almost exactly the opposite of what I was saying, and it’s a very telling interpretation.
No, I have no concern for the other men I was “competing” with. Why would I? They have absolutely zero bearing on my own successes or failure. If one of them got the girl, am I supposed to be mad about it?
As I said anecdotally, the majority of my friends met their partners on an app. There is no “I got mine”. I gave advice on what worked for me. The literal basics, widely acknowledged, that apply online or off. I’m not sure what other advice I’m supposed to offer in that respect that shows I “have empathy or concern for the other 79 men” that you’ve mentioned.
I’m also not sure what you’re talking about with regards to my concern for “the other 77 women”. Who are they? People who didn’t match with me? That’s fine - if someone’s not into my profile, then that’s okay. Do I have to be concerned for them somehow? In what way?
People have their own successes on the apps. Nearly 20% of UK adults under 50 met their partner on an app. That’s current partner - not all partners. The percentage who met anyone is higher.
To be honest if this tone is a reflection of how you talk to people online, then it goes some way to explain why you might not being seeing success on dating apps, presuming that’s the case. Try not to assume the worst.
It doesn’t sound like you really have any understanding of, or concern for, what happened to the other 77 women, nor what happened to the other 79+ men your girlfriend “swiped left” on in your scenario.
And you’re accusing me of using boomer logic? That’s some classic boomer logic if I’ve ever heard it: “I got mine, fuck the rest of you, it’s obvious why you all failed, you just need to work harder or lower your standards, even though I didn’t, because everything just worked out flawlessly for me and I don’t want to be too introspective about why in case I accidentally develop some empathy about it”
Yeah, dating apps are just fine the way they are. Nothing wrong with them at all.
😂😂😂
This is almost exactly the opposite of what I was saying, and it’s a very telling interpretation.
No, I have no concern for the other men I was “competing” with. Why would I? They have absolutely zero bearing on my own successes or failure. If one of them got the girl, am I supposed to be mad about it?
As I said anecdotally, the majority of my friends met their partners on an app. There is no “I got mine”. I gave advice on what worked for me. The literal basics, widely acknowledged, that apply online or off. I’m not sure what other advice I’m supposed to offer in that respect that shows I “have empathy or concern for the other 79 men” that you’ve mentioned.
I’m also not sure what you’re talking about with regards to my concern for “the other 77 women”. Who are they? People who didn’t match with me? That’s fine - if someone’s not into my profile, then that’s okay. Do I have to be concerned for them somehow? In what way?
People have their own successes on the apps. Nearly 20% of UK adults under 50 met their partner on an app. That’s current partner - not all partners. The percentage who met anyone is higher.
To be honest if this tone is a reflection of how you talk to people online, then it goes some way to explain why you might not being seeing success on dating apps, presuming that’s the case. Try not to assume the worst.