My wife complains about this to me. But in my defense, I only ask if I don’t really want to go myself. “Let’s go to the court house together” vs “you can come if you want”. I don’t want to subject her to the same shit I’d rather not be doing.
I’ve found myself in similar situations with past partners. I’ve found that “I need to go to x place. I’d love to have your company if you’re not busy” is a good way to let them know that I want them there with me, but there’s no obligation if they don’t want to come.
I don’t know how common it is, but I def tend to be socially inept. I think most people are socially inept in some situations though. The trick is finding someone with social ineptitudes that are compatible with yours.
see for some its more I don’t want to pressure you to come. If you can and want to thats great but really if you have anything you would rather be doing no big deal. I honestly wish I did not have to go.
My wife complains about this to me. But in my defense, I only ask if I don’t really want to go myself. “Let’s go to the court house together” vs “you can come if you want”. I don’t want to subject her to the same shit I’d rather not be doing.
I’ve found myself in similar situations with past partners. I’ve found that “I need to go to x place. I’d love to have your company if you’re not busy” is a good way to let them know that I want them there with me, but there’s no obligation if they don’t want to come.
Thanks! I’ll start using this, I’m surprised it’s such a common thing, I tought I was just socially inept or something
I don’t know how common it is, but I def tend to be socially inept. I think most people are socially inept in some situations though. The trick is finding someone with social ineptitudes that are compatible with yours.
see to me that sounds like guilting them into coming.
Yeah, same here. Communication is difficult already. I do not envy the difficulties neurodivergent folks go through in understanding this shit
The other option sounds like “I don’t care if you come”.
see for some its more I don’t want to pressure you to come. If you can and want to thats great but really if you have anything you would rather be doing no big deal. I honestly wish I did not have to go.
What’s a cream team
I don’t know. I just thought it was a funny username.