Guy is gonna look back on this moment for the rest of his life and kick himself

  • PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca
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    1 day ago

    “Hurt people hurt people” is a common saying for a reason; dealing with trauma is difficult and not dealing with it often leads to problems.
    That’s not to say that victims always become victimizers, it’s to say that the cycle of violence often begins with violence.

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      4 hours ago

      According to domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft, it’s about 50/50. So as far as we know, there is no correlation.

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        50/50 is a HUGE correlation.
        Incidence of DV is way less than 50/50 in the general population.

        Besides, it’s not just DV or SA, it’s also smaller things. You can hurt people without rising to the level of assault.

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          They’re not being an edgelord, they’re just being sarcastic. And they’re right to question it because the only source I know of on the question states that there is no statistical correlation (Lundy Bancroft).

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            You mean the other reply you gave me where you either misquoted it or you misunderstood the study? And you artificially limited the scope to a single kind of hurt which wouldn’t even capture the kind of hurt we’re discussing here?
            Actually I tried to find the study that you’re talking about and I can’t find it. Did he actually do a study on this? Afaict he is just a self-help author. I cant even find any formal education related to the subject.

            Meanwhile if you do a quick search for if unresolved trauma leads to violence, you see a ton of research supporting that.