• peoplebeproblems@midwest.social
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      10 months ago

      It’s definitely something I wouldn’t admit in person. But fuck the modern definition of masculinity tbh.

      I cry. I don’t like hunting or sports. Or drinking, or doing stupid things or making every waking moment about sleeping with the next woman. I’m not handy, but there isn’t a lot I can’t do.

      To me, masculinity feels more like alertness. The ability to handle anything that comes my way. The ability to solve problems in unconventional ways with the resources I have. Being able to own my faults and weaknesses.

      I might not be strong physically, but I’m strong mentally. It might not seem that way to other people, but I’m still around aren’t I? Yeah, I know I’m not physically attractive to most women, but I learned my lesson on the importance of physical attraction in a relationship. It’s a small part.

      I ain’t getting rid of my bear, and I won’t expect my son to either. Damn whatever his mom thinks. What’s important is who we are, not what others think us to be.

    • Victor@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      A lot of males or kids raised masculine have that habit broken real fast.

      I’m sure that’s common, indeed. I for one was raised by my mother and I don’t think she was pushing stuffed animals on or off me. But I’m sure society has in some way or another.

      But deep down I really have no interest in using them, which is some kind of indicator to me. I find them practically in the way, in my bed, in my couch—I can’t stand my kids’ stuffed animals, e.g. But I love that they love them. 😅