• LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      2 years ago

      He can say he doesn’t like them. That’s not what he said. He said he’s disappointed that so many women are getting them. I asked him why he’s disappointed that random women are choosing to get a piercing he dislikes? What do those random women have to do with him exactly?

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          Again, what is he disappointed in? Do you not know how fucking language works? Are you unfamiliar with the use of the word “dissappointed”? For example, you might say: Your mom is disappointed when you ask her to send you another 300.00 for the 5th time this month, because in her mind “she raised you to be better than that”. She’s pissed because you asked her. But she’s disappointed because your actions do not meet her expectations for you.

          So I’ll ask again, what is he disappointed in? Why is he disappointed with the choices of random women who have nothing to do with him?

          Edit: clarified I wasn’t trying to make a statement on the personal life of the commenter who i don’t know. Just a snarky example.

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              Yeah I’m toxic, you’re the one who flipped out at me for asking the commenter a question 😂 I’ll admit it was aggro but I don’t know you and was not trying to make a statement about your personal life that I have no knowledge of. I was showing the way that word functions and how it differs from other direct feelings in response to something. Disappointment is a specific emotion with a specific meaning.

              He didn’t say that if someone he dated had nipple piercings he’d be dissappointed, he said he was “disappointed so many girls” are choosing to get them. Don’t try and reframe what he said. You don’t have to come up with elaborate allegories we can talk about what he said right there.

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                  2 years ago

                  Lol yeah okay have fun dude you’re still mischaracterizing what I said. I never said anything about him having preferences. 🙄

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                    2 years ago

                    yeah, that’s your entire thing. Ripping into him for having preferences. How dare he, and how dare he have an emotional reaction to his preferences. The fact he isn’t dead inside proves he isn’t married to you. ;-)

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        “so many” just means the women he’s interacting with have them more often than they previously remember.

        It’s their own anecdotal, subset. A sample.

        They are discussing the observation they have on the women they are meeting. Not all women.

        To assume they are describing all women, or further, passing some meaningful judgement on all women is an invention of the reader