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That’s tough, and I hope you can manage it in such a way that it is not a huge detriment to the team. I hope you can also share this burden with your manager because that is a lot.

About the dating situation, I see a lot of downside (potential for messy drama, meltdown of an already vulnerable direct report, HR issues if things go wrong) and just a little upside. I’d keep it professional, and if you like her enough, I’d wait until one of you leaves for another job, and then get her number to keep in touch.

So John doesn’t like his job. He also seems to be not performing well. He is vocal about it to the point that it affects others. Are you, as his manager, addressing this issue?

No amount of good colleagues can make up for a bad boss. Been there.

If you like Kate Ryan’s version I can also recommend the original by Mylène Farmer.

I can HEAR this comment.

There is dignity in contributing to society, I do something I’m reasonably good at and therefore enjoy doing, my colleagues are friendly and decent people, it puts a roof over my head, food on the table, and something in the piggy bank for a rainy day.

My own, not so much. But I love celebrating other peoples’ birthdays.