You drastically overestimate the share of people’s impulses that come from rational thinking, and fail to account for the fact that humans are rationalized beings, not rational beings. That means, people are emotionally first, and secondarily taught to act somewhat rational.
I guess it would make sense to counter that slur with a counter-slur.
I.e., when somebody calls you a slut, respond by calling them a “needy one” or sth. Might hit a spot.
where the “need” is the need to be an asshole, i mean