That sounds incredibly unpleasant to the teeth and with sn awful sound to boot

As someone who’s done portrait modeling, yeah it’s unpleasant, but it’s not “I need a drink” bad. It’s far more “why did I sign up for this again” bad

Having seen mutually abusive relationships I think it’s far more complicated than it may initially feel like. It’s less “abusers wind up with abusers” and more that people whose understanding of love is abuse wind up together because healthy relationships feel wrong or nobody else will put up with them. But whether or not that happens, mutually destructive behaviors compound. When you can’t get a word in edgewise you may start to raise tour voice. When you get hit you may start to emotionally manipulate your partner. When you get emotionally manipulated you may escalate. It becomes an oroboros of unhealthy behaviors.

None of this makes the victims not victims. It also doesn’t mean it’s all people or that these people can’t change after leaving. This cycle needs to be broken when it manifests, and it needs to happen before someone dies.

Owning and operating such a thing requires a level of dirty labor he strikes me as being unwilling to engage in.

I always pictured Berlin as like the Midwest but with less tornadoes

For context this puts Rome about north enough to get snow hurricanes were it on the American east coast

11 is wild. Personally though I just wear my glasses and nothing else to sleep

Yeah I did a tried and it blew up. But triads are like that. They’re really good when they’re good and they’re a disaster when they’re not going well, unless you’re really good at relationship skills.

I’ve been poly most of my adult life and I love it. My biggest advice is to have boundaries, avoid drama, and avoid culty polycules. Also make sure you have you time.

My wife and I both just aren’t cut out for the restriction of monogamy even if we’re only seeing each other at the moment

He looks like the sort of person who vacations to a conflict zone and pays for an experience package that includes killing civilians.

Unfun fact! In Victorian England public executions were a common place to get pickpocketed. Brutal punishment for minor crimes didn’t reduce crime, it took social services to do that.

Yeah, this program takes people who are at high risk of reoffending violent crimes and are some of the most difficult criminals to feel sympathy for, and they treated them as human beings who might just be struggling with mental health issues rather than being ontologically evil. This is something that should reduce reoffense rates and may be key to helping these men live lives free not only from prisons, but from the miserable life of a domestic abuser and from their own destructive behaviors.

If you read the article, depression is a component, but the real issue is inability to emotionally regulate often due to trauma or mental illness (where the depression comes in). Additionally they approached it from a holistic perspective and included therapy. Mind you this is an initial study so it’s good it didn’t have too broad of a scope.

Furthermore, this is treating a root cause of the issue, but in the sons (and possibly daughters) of the people being treated. Growing up with an abusive parent makes you much more likely to become abusive as an adult, and having that parent get help and stop abusing is probably going to spare some future men from preventable mental illness.

Sure there are other social issues that can lead to worse mental health, but the results of this study are hugely inspiring and can help now.

I’m not going to pretend this is an emotionally easy or comfortable approach. There’s a desire to protect the victims and write off the perpetrators on one hand and on the other, there’s the men who feel attacked by the idea that abusive and violent men are having mental health issues. But I believe in evidence based solutions. If this works, and it doesn’t violate fundamental rights (which it doesn’t), then it’s a path I want pursued.

And it makes a lot of sense to me. Every abuser I’ve had has had mental health issues. My father couldn’t fully control big emotions in the moment, and so when he didn’t have the capacity to step away, such as a car ride or a hotel room, he scared the shit out of us.

I would love a pilot program that forces domestic abusers into mental health treatment similar to addicts are sometimes put into sobriety programs.

I was more referring to that posse that some insane clowns made in Michigan

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Am I offended? Yes, who wouldn’t be offended by being compared to this dim tool? But it’s not bigoted and you do have a good point

Which is funny because a bald spot would make him look old enough to vote

Alternatively, this is the civil rights division. These people likely care about civil rights and are pissed at the people who fired them. Lot of room for adversarial behavior as employees here

Yeah, that was his problem last time. He churned through mildly qualified people