Funnily enough, a dentist did tell me something like this once, but for soda.

Apparently it’s better to chug it than sip it because the acid in the soda doesn’t touch your teeth for as long.

Hmm I wonder if I may have shot past the more straightforward way to parse it.

I’m coming from a stance where “don’t do it as soon as you know it’s ableist” is voiceless rule, so that significantly colors how I’m interpreting it.

That response was more me being like “oh wow this is essentially saying ignorance is an excuse for using ableist language” (caveats run amok here like “only when there are no known other words” as well as “strictly only when one isn’t employing a shitty stereotype when referring to whoever they’re referring to”)

Admittedly, I can see how that is still a less than desirable takeaway, but all I’m trying to say is I 100% agree with what you’ve written.

Tldr; thank you for the clarification! Full agree and this is mostly just me trying to figure out where some disconnect is

Work is going crazy because 1 project got behind schedule and then another project got behind schedule as a consequence of the first project going off. Waterfall workflows, man.

But it’s looking ok. As long as I keep lifting afterwork and vibing out when I’m too tired, I think I’ll be ok lol

Thank goodness for flex hours and wfh though. I don’t know how I’d survive without being able to take a massive break away from it when it gets to be too much

My biggest take away was:

Ableism is not a list of bad words. Language is one tool of an oppressive system. Being aware of language – for those of us who have the privilege of being able to change our language – can help us understand how pervasive ableism is. Ableism is systematic, institutional devaluing of bodies and minds deemed deviant, abnormal, defective, subhuman, less than. Ableism is violence.

So the language itself isn’t ableist, technically, according to this, but abilism is when the person using the language thinks of the negative stereotypes associated and uses that to justify some shitty position or action.

So in other words, while lame is acknowledged as a problematic word, it’s not inherently abilist to use it, which is not a takeaway I was expecting to get.

Let me know if I misread it, but thank you for posting! It was an informative read!

Weak-sauce is the exact essence of what I’m trying to get at, but it’s too… Millennial… Like, internally there’s no issue with using it, but saying/typing it out to someone older than me feels distinctly cringe (in the lightest sense, though lol just like something you’re not supposed to do, you know?)

That’s a good idea too. I think the word I was looking for was “inconsiderate” but these are fantastic solutions for other situations as well!

This post made me realize that the word I’m looking for is likely “inconsiderate”. Thank you! Sad is definitely close too.

And I agree, I try not to be too hard on myself when I slip on language I prefer to use. I don’t think being too hard on myself is productive in any way anymore.

Cringe is just too visceral for what I’m describing though.

Lame would be a 3/10 while cringe would be like a 5/10, using cringe in its least meaningful form. A full on cringe is like a 8/10 (and depending on who I’m talking to, it seems to sometimes hit like a 10/10)

I gotta agree with you.

It feels like dumb has more baggage than meaning to the point that the baggage has become the meaning. I feel like lame is on the precipice of having the same problem, which is kind of a big motivator for me making this post to begin with.

Ahh those are all fantastic, thank you!

I wouldn’t describe “only texting someone when you need something” as mid though, if that helps at all

That’s a good one, I like that. Thanks for the suggestion!

Ok, Mr. Moneybags who’s never had an overdraft fee

(JK, I don’t know you or your life, in case the reading comprehensionless mob comes for me)

Can confirm, god is just dog backwards.

Bosses self reporting as dumbasses, as usual

I was under the impression it was primarily " if it isn’t broken, then don’t fix it" levels of tradition.

I could be wrong though, so if someone with more creds than a random internet dweller comes along, feel free to ignore me.

Heck, if you think I’m an idiot, feel free to ignore me :)

You know what’s hyper fucked?

Back when I was a baby republican (read: a parentally brainwashed child) and just learning about gerrymandering in school, my reaction was basically “well that’s shitty, but at least it’s the people I like doing it”.

I’m pretty sure that’s very common thinking amongst hardened republicans. I don’t even know how you convince someone to not be like that either, I just changed when I was out from under my parents boot and finally allowed to learn about the political effects of racism.

Tldr; common think pattern leads me to believe Texas is fucked until reepublicans lose their power there.

That’s the “lgbtq+” multiplier and it ends your presidential campaign in scandal

“If you spiral into the grave, your cost of living goes down by 100%!” - some jackass at the wsj soon, probably

What an interesting problem!

Are you able to use other styles of casing? Like underscore casing might help because you can see the spaces so it’s strike_through_offset Whitespace_width Etc Or maybe, if you have to stick with camel, it’s every syllable (if you work on a team, I would not recommend this, but for personal stuff it should be fine)

I don’t think it’s a case of get good so much as it is a case of you parsing things differently depending on brain state, and you not having a tool to help you over come it/return to the previous brain state that could tell you which letter to capitalize.

I think your best bet might be to come up with hard arbitrary rules and practice those until it sticks. It’s all vibes until experience hardens it into an opinion, basically

My initial kneejerk reaction though was “you’re thinking too hard about it, just let it flow” but idk if that’s helpful in the slightest lol certainly wouldn’t help if there’s a mental bump at play, so I think simplifying the rules into something regular is probably the best place to start