I know cloudflare has a free tier and allows you to put rules like this in place. AFAIK you’d have to use them as DNS at least in order to use this feature. I use Cloudflare tunnels and access to facilitate remote access to my home-server, and I know I have this same rule in place.

I seem to remember years ago some people listing their pronouns by she/her/hers. I think she/her, she/they, he/him, etc. is just a shortening of listing all three while also being inclusive. As you mentioned some individuals are more fluid and may go by she and they but prefer she so it is listed as she/they.

I’d get a house for me and my family. Make sure my parents have a house that meets their needs as well. I’d hire a personal trainer to get in shape and take a few months off work while I figure out what to do next.

I always liked the idea of going to a college that had a program with a work term so you can see if you like it and also get some experience. I would say talk to some people in areas that you are interested in and see if you find any jobs you may look doing.

I lurk with an ad blocker. I do still have an account and am logged in so I can vote and save some posts.

Second this. Start with an old desktop and see where you land. it’s a good starting place to see what services you like using/need. Then you can spec out a second machine to solve any pain points you have.

I know a few people who have done this with Mastodon and it works quite well so far. Just like email, it doesn’t really matter where it’s hosted as long as it’s being respectful and not sending out spam.

That being said, AFAIK you can’t transfer a Lemmy account between instances yet, so if you ever change your mind and want to move to another instance, you may have to create a new account.