Adramis [he/him]

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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • Is that the fault of the admins, trying to stem a tide of reports and problems, or is that the fault of some users, not being willing to open a second tab in their browser? It sucks to have to maintain different accounts, but it’s a lot less deleterious than the alternative.

    I think if there were strong mod tools, your argument would make more sense (though I’d probably still disagree), but especially with the utter lack of mod tools, it just isn’t feasible.


  • Then you fundamentally don’t agree with the principles behind federation, and the fediverse might not be for you. It’s funny that you are mad and “want to curate your own browsing experience”, but aren’t willing to put in the effort to run a simple script (https://github.com/wescode/lemmy_migrate), pick an instance or a few that match your stance (they’re out there and much more common than the niche Beehaw serves), or start your own instance.

    Do you know how much effort being federated with spam factories / outrage machines generates for the mods and admins? When you depend on individual blocking, you get to click and forget about every bad actor or community. You don’t see the ongoing hours that mods and admins have to pour in to dealing with that actor or community as they keep spitting out garbage.

    Also, good thing you’re on a very unlocked instance then. If you’re mad about your instance doing whatever, then take it up with your admins, not Beehaw. Beehaw is a uniquely curated instance primarily intended to serve as a space where queer people don’t have to get bombarded with non-queer people being ignorant. We deal with that enough in real life.






  • Not sure what I’m going to do when this hits my state. We passed our “child only” bill last year. I don’t live near a border and my job is strict in-person only.

    I technically have the resources to move and have at least some job prospects, but there’s huge swaths of my community that don’t. Also, effectively outlawing trans existence in a state guarantees that no one will be left to vote for it, effectively pushing more states red. We can’t even rely on the Supreme Court to strike these down…

    I’ve heard Minnesota is good, but that’s extremely far from me, and I have moderate-severe SAD so I worry that living that far north would be the end of me. Maybe I’ll have to go for “might be the end of me” over “will currently be the end of me”.







  • Are these actual “major health issues”, or is this standard level anxiety/depression? The article doesn’t really clarify, and I get the feeling that’s on purpose.

    “There are people out there who I think are trying to play both sides of the game,” said Jerome Limoge, an aviation medical examiner in Colorado Springs who gives physicals to hundreds of pilots a year. “They’re being encouraged by VA to claim everything. Some of it is almost stolen valor.”

    If they get put through the meat grinder that is the US military complex, maybe they should be able to claim the benefits they deserve. This is just veteran-flavored welfare queen rhetoric. And it’s not like VA benefits are worth shit anyway…

    There’s a line to walk between preventing tragedies like Germanwings Flight 9525 and putting undue stress on pilots. This both puts undue stress on pilots and ironically makes a similar disaster more likely. Bringing the hammer down on people with mental health problems doesn’t make them go away, it just makes people go undiagnosed and untreated.







  • I still struggle with this one. I feel like my life lacks meaning without having some kind of external interaction. It used to be building a small community, then a random poly disaster came flying through and revealed a lot of problems with half of my friend group, including three of the 7 saying “I’m not a transman because men and transmen are toxic” (to me, a transman). So I dropped that half of the friend group, fortunately the other half also saw that as a red flag. I feel like they’re the only external interaction I have that’s worthwhile but I don’t really ‘build’ anything anymore, and that makes me feel like I’m wasting my life.

    Then I tried activism, but I hate feeling angry and sad all the time, because there’s certainly no good news and probably never will be.

    I try engaging with the pre-existing queer communities around me, but they’re massively fem/enby skewed so even when there aren’t any problems with misandry (which is rare), I end up feeling like I’m a weird relic of the past that shouldn’t exist anymore. Plus they’re heavily skewed towards unstable poly so it’s just a constant ongoing orgy/disaster all the time.

    It feels like regular society doesn’t want men who are anything left of far right. Conservatives don’t want you because you don’t agree with them, moderates are rare and often have their own problems, the left doesn’t want you because you’re a man and men are guilty unless proven otherwise (if there’s even a way to prove otherwise). I just don’t know.