• Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee
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    11 months ago

    Well ofcourse it’s a combination of things but I feel like there something to the theory of how overstimulation like that drains your dopamine reserves (or something) and kind of makes you numb to more mundane positive experiences.

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      11 months ago

      that really just sounds like victim blaming to me, by that logic couples that have sex often should be miserable too but the precise opposite seems to be the case

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        11 months ago

        Well I’m the victim of my own behaviour and I’m definitely not blaming anyone else but myself. Also, there’s a difference between doing something in healthy amounts and being obsessed about it. I don’t know about you but personally I feel like wasting 20+ hours into porn and masturbation in a week doesn’t seem healthy. It my not be the sole cause for ones problems but it’s definitely not helping.

      • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.worksOP
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        11 months ago

        Maybe it’s because you share the experience with a SO. Doing it alone can bring momentary joy and relief, but in the long run, it can’t replace sex.