Meh, it shouldn’t be normalised, it’s degrading and copy cats will absolutely do it in non consensual ways. This is well into the realm of BDSM, and needs clearly established consent, not some move that people will pull out at random because they saw it in a screen
Anyone who wants to get into anything even remotely BDSM-y should have mandatory reading of Sunstone first.
There’s a character there who lost her hands because she wanted to impress her dom boyfriend and tied herself to the bed with self-tightening knots. The boyfriend - not aware of the fact - was home late. By that time she lost strength in her arms, the knots tightened and cut off blood-flow and her hands had to be amputated.
This shit is sexy and hot, but dangerous if performed by unaware/inexperienced people.
BDSM can skirt some safety lines. It’s generally easy or at least quite obvious how to be safe if you know what you’re doing, so ignorance or extreme behavior are usually what get people in trouble.
The more minor incidents do make for great stories if you know anyone who works in A&E. “I tripped and fell on a courgette.” Sure you did, love.
I absolutely agree on the consent bit, but it already seems to be well and truly normalised IMO. Banning it in porn is madness though - those with healthy boundaries already understand porn isn’t real life, and those who don’t aren’t going to suddenly learn about consent if we ban certain (arbitrary) acts. The correct measure, as usual, is to invest in proper sex education instead of prohibition.
Meh, it shouldn’t be normalised, it’s degrading and copy cats will absolutely do it in non consensual ways. This is well into the realm of BDSM, and needs clearly established consent, not some move that people will pull out at random because they saw it in a screen
Anyone who wants to get into anything even remotely BDSM-y should have mandatory reading of Sunstone first.
There’s a character there who lost her hands because she wanted to impress her dom boyfriend and tied herself to the bed with self-tightening knots. The boyfriend - not aware of the fact - was home late. By that time she lost strength in her arms, the knots tightened and cut off blood-flow and her hands had to be amputated.
This shit is sexy and hot, but dangerous if performed by unaware/inexperienced people.
BDSM can skirt some safety lines. It’s generally easy or at least quite obvious how to be safe if you know what you’re doing, so ignorance or extreme behavior are usually what get people in trouble.
The more minor incidents do make for great stories if you know anyone who works in A&E. “I tripped and fell on a courgette.” Sure you did, love.
awful lot of pearl clutching on lemmy.
The government should be able to decide what to do in bed? Come on
This is about media content not bedrooms, so yes.
But if people do get in to choking very few will do proper consent and safety, so this absolutely gets into being a police matter
Oh it’s actually not. It’s about what you can do
The UK government isn’t regulating what you can do in privacy, so no
Tell my last 2 girlfriends this. They don’t care.
I absolutely agree on the consent bit, but it already seems to be well and truly normalised IMO. Banning it in porn is madness though - those with healthy boundaries already understand porn isn’t real life, and those who don’t aren’t going to suddenly learn about consent if we ban certain (arbitrary) acts. The correct measure, as usual, is to invest in proper sex education instead of prohibition.