• velma@sh.itjust.works
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      3 days ago

      Why does every topic necessitate a joke about women wanting men with money?

      WHY?

      We’re talking about spiders ffs

      Gold digger jokes aren’t even clever anymore, like at least have more creativity jesus christ

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        what an extreme reaction to such an innocuous joke. don’t die on the hill of being “that guy”

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          That user is notoriously self-righteousness about grandstanding whenever gender is even slightly mentioned. Even when other women tell her she’s being obnoxious.

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              20 hours ago

              That’s hilarious because I’m not even a transphobe, so that fits right in with your character of calling people various kinds of intolerant in order to feel like you’re on a moral pedestal

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                20 hours ago

                It’s not like your removed comments disappear.

                Regardless, if users like you are the ones who don’t like me, I’m not losing sleep over it.

                It’s been a long time since I lived my life based on what others expect of me. My moral code is strong and I’m not ashamed of it.

                Have a good one out there.

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                  19 hours ago

                  What, my removed comments that got mischaracterized and swarmed by people virtue signaling like you instead of actually engaging in a rational discussion and trying to understand what I was actually trying to say? Cause if you could see the full context, which you can’t, you would see that what I was saying wasn’t transphobic at all.

                  And that string of “banned for being transphobic” was all from one mod, on a series of comms that I’ve never participated in, over the aforementioned conversation on a different comm. And that mod was clearly someone like you who cares more about virtue signaling than rational discussion.

                  After all, I called you a woman, didn’t I? I used your preferred pronouns. That doesn’t seem like something a transphobe would do, does it? I’ve never once attacked you for being trans. I’ve called you out for being self-righteousness and in many cases bigoted, and I’ve seen other trans people call you out for the same shit too.

                  But whatever, don’t lose sleep. I wouldn’t want you to damage your health. Just, when you wake up in the morning, take a look in the mirror and realize you’re just a human too, with human flaws, and you don’t get a pass on that just because of your marginalized status.

                  Anyone can be a bigot. If you don’t believe me, just look at Caitlin Jenner, Alice Weidel, Kanye West. It’s not exclusive to cishet white men. Remember that.

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            2 days ago

            i noticed. the self awareness has left the building for that individual. lol

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              20 hours ago

              You’re agreeing with someone banned from multiple communities for their transphobic attacks.

              But yeah, my self awareness is non-existent.

              Good allies you got there!

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                19 hours ago

                One mod. Several communities that I’ve never participated in. Over a strawman.

                Yeah, but self-awareness has everything to do with this. 🙄

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                your lens of the world must be extremely cloudy, kiddo. i don’t care about your fantasy outrage scenarios. and quite frankly, I don’t have to.

                you are an extremely unpleasant individual to be around and comment to.

                good day.

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          Oh no, I’m being a killjoy for all the jokes about misogyny, rape, and pedophilia in this site?

          Yeah I’m the one in the wrong.

          I’ve got messages in my inbox justifying electing a rapist regardless of political identity and we can’t even talk about spiders without someone making jokes about how shitty women are.

          Whatever.

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            we can’t even talk about spiders without someone making jokes about how shitty women are.

            Funny thing coming back to this thread and answering a few more replies about people’s admiration for spiders, it kind of hit me that once you collapse your initial comment about the light-hearted joke, people can actually just talk about spiders. Like all the off topic talk was caused by you and no one else.

            The initial joke is even biologically accurate.

            The cute ones tend to have higher career salaries on average, so they are able to attract female spiders to mate with.

            Not in all, but some (very prominently the “peacock spiders”), the males absolutely have to be cute and perform a literal dance … with a high chance of getting eaten by the female if they don’t live up to her standards.

            So yeah, that joke is actually pretty good if you knew a fucking thing about spider biology. But you had to come here and inject your brand of self-righteous feminism into it. Great job.

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              18 hours ago

              Gold digger jokes are inherently misogynistic. I’m allowed my opinion when someone comments at me with said joke.

              Scolding me isn’t going to change my mind here. Do you feel better though?

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                    18 hours ago

                    You don’t. But your continued bickering with people brought this thread back up and brought to light some worthwhile comments. Replying to you was more of an after thought (also most “new comments” where located in your thread). But it seems obvious that you’re quite feedback resistant. So you do you.

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            nobody is raping anyone in this thread, damn. you’re like the PETA of women’s rights.

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                nobody did in any serious capacity. you flew off the handle and then doubled down when you were told it was a joke.

                go outside and touch grass ffs. read some poetry. literally anything that might help you develop a sense of humor.

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                  I’m never going to find humor in making fun of women like this.

                  There’s no amount of snotty little boys telling me I’m no fun that will make me lean in to casual misogyny.

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                    I’m a woman, but sure. “casual misogyny” it is.

                    hope you get better soon!

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        2 days ago

        The second largest family of spiders are literally the “money spiders”.

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            You should consider some gold digging, maybe you can buy yourself a sense of humour.

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              It’s so funny to punch down on women, you’re right! I don’t know how I never realized before that women are so fucking shitty and it’s so fucking funny to laugh how they traditionally were held back from real career opportunities and were forced to rely on men for support and now we laugh and laugh and laugh about how they were subjugated and now have to deal with a glass ceiling and men laughing at their struggles.

              It’s SO FUNNY, isn’t it?

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        If women as a rule preferred men with good personalities over men with a lot of money, then why would Elon Musk have so many kids?

        Try being a broke man with a decent personality and then tell me where golddigger jokes come from, goddamn.

        Or just go over to reddit dating advice and count how many times a woman explains to a guy that even though his looks and personality might be okay, if he’s making minimum wage then he’s not going to be viewed as a viable long-term partner…