• velma@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    I like to quote so that it is clear which part of someone’s comment I am replying to directly.

    I know it seems like the US is falling apart at the seams and we’re beyond saving, but that’s a bit hyperbolic when we’re just talking about laws around being topless. The Bible Belt isn’t the only place in the US either.

    Women are often told what we should be doing to avoid being targeted or avoid being labeled any number of things.

    I really was trying to have a conversation with you. No hostility here.

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      3 days ago

      My initial comment was in respect to those places where it would be a major risk. Nearly everywhere I’ve been in the US would find little objection to toplessness, but I understand that isn’t universal. This effectively comes down to an inversion of “people live in cities.” People tend to suck more outside of cities. My friend, a witch, was ostracized from her small town for paganism, if you can believe that. So I’m still reeling from context alone.

      And I certainly didn’t mean to condescend. Everyone here is an amorphous thought blob to me even after they express their physical characteristics. I was offering a generic “stay safe.”

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        My friend, a witch, was ostracized from her small town for paganism, if you can believe that.

        I can as my mother is Wiccan and raised me in paganism. It honestly just reinforces my belief that we shouldn’t tell women to quiet their spirit because others might find them thrill seekers, mentally ill, hippy, or something else in that vein.

        Thanks for coming back and settling our disagreement. I appreciate the respectful back and forth with you <3

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          I wouldn’t tell a woman to simmer down for the sake of perceptions, but I would tell someone to consider choose their surroundings to fulfill their needs, which was what i was getting at. Though moving is far easier said than done if you’re in the US. It’s all just variation in optimism and prognostication.

          Frankly, I don’t understand why you didn’t block me and move on after my earlier nonsense, but samesies