I exist mostly without relationships. I can barely fathom living with one romantic person. If that person then was able to execute sexual acts with others on a regular basis with relative ease I dont think we’d be compatible because our lives would be too different, experiences too different.
I can imagine, however, a different scenario wherein both of us pay for professional, independent sex workers occasionally-primarily themselves that are also adept in therapeutic massage. Maybe. But still it does seem like an odd zeitgeist for romantic relationships right now.
All relationships are unique, and there are no (there are, but there shouldn’t be) guidelines on what makes a relationship real or not.
I have bad cPTSD from a previous DV relationship and I get nightmarish flashback episodes when I get in romantic relationships, so me and my partners agreed that I’m not able to have romantic relationships. so our relationship is defined by what we agreed on (look into “relationship smorgasbord”), we have intimacy, because human to human touch and affection is something I need regularly and she does too. and I encourage her to find the romantic affection with other partners. overall it’s a healthy relationship based on trust communication and care.
the notion of only one acceptable form of relationship is so primitive, based on medieval property rights and religion. build you own relationships however you want/need/able.
ps: this school of thought isnt Ethical non-monogamy, but “relationship anarchy”.
“all relationships are unique, and there are no (there are, but there shouldn’t be) guidelines on what makes a relationship real or not […] build your own relationship however you want/need/able”
Also you
“I still think monogomy is unethical and it’s cruel to expect that of a partner” (paraphrased)
Lol, lmao even
Not very relationship-anarchic of you to hierarchisize relationships, with some being inherently more ethical than others
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I exist mostly without relationships. I can barely fathom living with one romantic person. If that person then was able to execute sexual acts with others on a regular basis with relative ease I dont think we’d be compatible because our lives would be too different, experiences too different.
I can imagine, however, a different scenario wherein both of us pay for professional, independent sex workers occasionally-primarily themselves that are also adept in therapeutic massage. Maybe. But still it does seem like an odd zeitgeist for romantic relationships right now.
All relationships are unique, and there are no (there are, but there shouldn’t be) guidelines on what makes a relationship real or not.
I have bad cPTSD from a previous DV relationship and I get nightmarish flashback episodes when I get in romantic relationships, so me and my partners agreed that I’m not able to have romantic relationships. so our relationship is defined by what we agreed on (look into “relationship smorgasbord”), we have intimacy, because human to human touch and affection is something I need regularly and she does too. and I encourage her to find the romantic affection with other partners. overall it’s a healthy relationship based on trust communication and care.
the notion of only one acceptable form of relationship is so primitive, based on medieval property rights and religion. build you own relationships however you want/need/able.
ps: this school of thought isnt Ethical non-monogamy, but “relationship anarchy”.
You:
“all relationships are unique, and there are no (there are, but there shouldn’t be) guidelines on what makes a relationship real or not […] build your own relationship however you want/need/able”
Also you
“I still think monogomy is unethical and it’s cruel to expect that of a partner” (paraphrased)
Lol, lmao even
Not very relationship-anarchic of you to hierarchisize relationships, with some being inherently more ethical than others