• millie@beehaw.org
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      7 days ago

      I take back my previous comment about you trying to be an ally. This attitude is hostile to trans people. Wake the fuck up.

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        By this logic, anyone who isn’t Black shouldn’t talk for all of Black History Month. It’s an absurd expectation.

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          That’s a false equivalent, Black History Month is a full month, TDoV is one day.

          No one is suggesting a total ban on speech. We’re pointing out the difference between participating in a conversation and directing it. The goal of a day like TDoV is for trans people to be the subject of the conversation, rather than the audience for someone else’s memories.

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            You’re still saying your supporters have no right to a voice unless they’re exactly like you. That is a very slippery slope, since, ostensibly, the point of a day of awareness is to promote conversation. That’s exactly the sort of argument people make to oppose trans rights in the first place.

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      Your anecdotes are cute but I think you’re kinda missing the point where it’s very explicitly about trans voices.

      With friends like you who needs enemies?

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      I think there’s a misunderstanding about the intent here. Asking for space on TDoV isn’t meant as an attack, but as a boundary. Support shouldn’t be conditional on a community being perfectly polite while they’re asking to be heard. Telling a marginalized group they aren’t doing themselves any favors by setting boundaries on their own visibility day feels more like a lecture than allyship.