If what you’re talking about is military casualties, then it’s not unreasonable that a country cares more about their own than the enemy. But when civilian deaths are on the line too then it feels excessively narcissistic and selfish.

“Oh did we kill 300 school children?? … That’s not a big deal, but did you also hear that five us service members were killed? Let’s only focus on how sad it is for each service member!”