For those who had good dads, what is it like? Is it like having a good mom but male? Can you share the problems in your life with them? Do you really love them? If they were to not exist now, would you miss them?
I’m asking the above to men here who had “good dads”.
Sorry for the weird questions above. I could never imagine myself loving an older, authoritative male figure in my life. I think it’s like a fully blind person not being able to imagine colors? I’m not sure.
Like… Do you feel comfortable around your dad? Does it not feel confining? Like there’s this void standing next to you, consuming all of the oxygen in the room?
For those with good dads, were they humble? Did they accept their mistakes? Did you feel comfortable going to them for support?
As a son who had a great dad who passed too soon, yes I really loved him and I miss him terribly. I feel robbed of my chance to have had an adult relationship with him.
In my experience he was not like having a male mom, but no two parents are going to be good at everything anyway. Good parents will usually offer qualities that compliment each other.
My dad taught me a lot of practical knowledge about building and maintaining tools, devices, cars, and homes. He also fostered my interests in airplanes and engineering. He was a role model for me when it came to simply being a nice and caring person. He encouraged me to do things that I liked and supported practically anything I was interested in. He is the sole reason I am into Star Trek and enjoy all kinds of other Sci-Fi.
My dad was one of the nicest and most caring people I have ever known. He always did everything in his power to make people feel welcome and loved.
I miss him every day and wish I could hang out with him again.
These are really valid questions! I’m a fiercely pro dad woman, and I’ll try to answer. IME people’s relationship with their dad tends to be different to their mom, they’re two different roles and two different people. IME people tend to go to dad for practical stuff (financial advice, DIY, moving things etc) and mom for home based practical and lengthy emotional discussions. Dad will also do emotional stuff, but often different style eg pep talks. For protection stuff, IME people go to dad.
Yes I love and miss my dad very much. A good person accepts mistakes, no matter what their role. And you can always go to a good parent cos they’re always safe.
I’m sorry you didnt get the dad all children deserve. Have you found [email protected] People post when they need dad style advice or a hug.
Its slightly funny that this person asked for a man’s perspective yet you chimed in anyways, a bit ironic don’t you think?
I’m not even a dad but here’s my disappointed dad face to tell you that you could do a better job with your proper apostrophe usage.
Yep I’m neurodiverse I do that sometimes. Please don’t comment on my symptoms in future, it isn’t very nice for me. Thanks for understanding ♥️
Apostrophes aren’t symptoms, they’re easily-corrected mistakes.
Apostrophes almost never pluralize nouns. So if you’re talking about more than one of something, you almost never need to add an apostrophe to make it plural.
Knowledge is power. Being neurodiverse doesn’t change that.
Thanks otp, unfortunately I struggle to read text on lemmy coloured backgrounds. Writing is also just going to unavoidably foil me sometimes. Please bear in mind, the way written language developed is neurotypical, and so not how my brain is wired. If everyone’s brain was wired like me, written language would have developed differently. It isn’t as simple as learning linguistic rules… if it was, I’d have done that years ago.
