• LakesLem@lemm.ee
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    2 years ago

    41 dating 25, we’re both happy but guess I should hand myself in somewhere ;~;

    But yeah definitely looking younger than 36 based on these standards 😅

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    2 years ago

    Good advice from 1901. Especially the bit about not marrying women older, taller, or wealthier than you. Especially all 3. Even if she’s like 1 day older, 1 inch taller, or $1 wealthier than you. You gotta man up and not tie that knot!

    /S

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      2 years ago

      Actually, a good advice in general though. Not many marriages last when the woman is considerably wealthier or older. Not sure about taller, I’ve seen a lot of successfull exceptions.

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      2 years ago

      This (within reason and legality obviously)

      It’s a case by case thing. Admittedly I’m defending myself here as I’m 41 dating 25 and I will never assume to be a good person or doing the right thing but am at least trying. Basically minding and respecting the gap but allowing the fact we fell in love to go ahead and happen.

      • Both guys (idk, I heard age gaps are more common with gays anyway?)
      • He was the one to approach me and ask me out, I’d thought about it but was reluctant to, turned out he got there first
      • I check regularly that he’s happy and remind him of where the difference will be in 9 years for example
      • It’s an open relationship, largely for his benefit and freedom (of course I get some fun too) and heck we’re not actually all that sexual between ourselves
      • I’m not in any rush to pin him down, and often say he’s free to do what he wants, enjoy the 20s fully and decide for himself if he wants a future with me or not. If one day he finds someone closer in terms of age or distance and wants to let me go, of course I’ll be heartbroken but love and want the best for him so would respect the decision - hopefully ultimately remaining friends and lives made richer than when we started.
      • To be honest, whilst I know it’s not a good thing, I’m a late bloomer, so in various ways kind of like the same age but sadly in an older body

      I’m not gonna be like “oh I’m a good person so it’s fine”, I don’t know that. I might be an asshole. I can only try, based on things like the above, hopefully without being labelled something nasty.

      (Who am I defending against anyway? Probably my own conscience.)

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    2 years ago

    With how stressful things have been lately? I might just look like that in just under a decade…

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      2 years ago

      maybe 1987 was a weak batch or something, and they’re aging prematurely… i don’t have any data to support that…

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        They started high-school just after Columbine, they were trying to get through high-school when 9/11 happened, they were trying to start their careers when the GFC came along, and they were trying to get married when COVID hit. Late-80s babies can’t catch a break.

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          2 years ago

          no i agree 100%, i feel for them… i honestly can’t tell you how sick i am about it… Columbine was enough…

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    2 years ago

    I brutally kill 36 year olds too, usually by gassing them with RAID for trying to escape my basement.