I know this is a joke, but it was my ticket out of being harassed at work.
MFW they give the instigator a written warning and me termination for the same offense when I do that.
Hell yeah. Matching people’s energy and tone have been invaluable for me. And not just in the terrible situations. I find matching kind and energetic people even when I’m not in the mood to be the best cure for my malaise.
nowhere is this more instantly apparent than when somebody is driving at you with the power of 9000 pure white suns as their headlights and you flash them twice to indicate “oi mate I can’t fuckin’ see” and then you see their headlights throw light up above the trees because they turned their “high” beams on to say “fuck you cunt I don’t care”
I have much better experience with just calling people out on their shit in public. Treat people with respect but hold them accountable to a standard.
I’ve had friendships like this, it took a long time to realize that I didn’t have to put up with the abuse.
Wait until you find out more than half of the population is like this.
Treat people as they want to be treated. The needs of the masochist are not the needs of the sadist, to frame it in extremes.
That’s silly, why should I treat someone who wants to destroy the planet as they want to be treated?
I’ll take your example and elaborate:
Someone who is destroying the planet is probably the kind of person who views all others as their adversary and feels entitled to take the earths resources for their own.
By setting the rules of the game that way, they have opened the door to the other people on earth viewing them as an adversary and taking their resources for our own.
Nah, the rule
Treat people as they want to be treated.
doesn’t logically imply anything you wrote. It lacks constraints for justification.
In contrast, treating others as you would want to be treated (if you were them) implies or suggests considering & supporting their justifiable needs vicariously (which draws on compassion). You wouldn’t want to give yourself unjust obligations. If someone wanted a treatment from you that is unjust, and you were them, then you would create an unjust obligation on yourself, so you wouldn’t do it. If they wanted a just treatment, and you were them, then you would want it, so you’d treat them accordingly.
The element where you liken others to yourself operating by common moral rules is crucial.
… if they treat you the way you want to be treated.
